Thursday, November 26, 2015

On this day...

I really love the "On this Day" feature on Facebook, where you can see what you posted on the same day years ago. I'm really sentimental and often nostalgic, so I love to reminisce on stuff from the past and reflect on what has changed since then...

...Except for today, when I read my post from 11/25/2014, which brought a tear to my eye. It was about Mike Brown's murder and the Ferguson riots. It just suddenly hit me that 365 days later, we as a country are far more divided than even one year ago. The fight for justice and equality has not seen any progress. If anything, we are going backwards. Sandra Bland, Freddie Gray, and countless others have joined the list of people who have lost their lives for absolutely no reason. Donald Trump has spread false stereotypes and bigotry towards Latinos and the working class, and amazingly, he actually has full fledge support from many. Discrimination against Muslims is at an all time high. Hatred for homosexuals and gay marriage is rampant. Transgender people even got to see people's true feelings about them come out when Caitlyn Jenner's transition was revealed. The media has made everything worse by not covering positive stories like the Million Man March or pivotal moments like the horrifying shooting of a historic black church in Charleston, meanwhile twisting stories around and manipulating the truth for shock value. People have actively spoken out against the entire #blacklivesmatter movement because they still somehow cannot acknowledge that racism exists, that our system is broken, and that privileged people don't do enough about it; even after peaceful protesters were shot just days ago by white supremacists in Minnesota. And now, we turn our back on refugees fleeing for their lives. ALL of this happened in the last year. I really can't wrap my brain around it. I have never been more hopeless about this country than now.

So this Thanksgiving, I hope those of you who are not burdened by these (and MANY other) events are very thankful. If you don't have to worry about being killed by police or seeing your son lie dead in the street, you're truly blessed. If you aren't treated like a second class citizen, consider yourself lucky. If you aren't regularly judged based on your religion, race, ethnicity, social class, or sexual orientation, you should be very grateful. If your family members are alive and you have a home to celebrate this holiday in, you're doing better than many. But that doesn't mean that this isn't a reality for millions of other people. We live in the best country in the world and we should all be thankful to be here, but we have work to do and us being divided is not helping. So yes, my heart is heavy yet again and yours should be too. 

The most admirable human trait in my opinion is empathy, the ability to put yourself in the shoes of others and feel compassion for them. Imagine if we all said a prayer to make things better, how much love, positive energy and blessings we could send to people in need. Even if you won't take a stand and speak out against wrongdoing and unjust events, please consider praying that this country improves and unites. 

XOXO ❤️

Wednesday, November 18, 2015

My First Tokyo Experience



                Japan. A country that’s made such a profound impact on the rest of the world, from technology and cars, food, and cultural phenomena such as geishas, sumo wrestling, karate and samurais, anime and gaming, and so many other cherished obsessions around the world. For me, it’s always been a place of wonder and fascination.



            Since I now live in Hawaii, this was a natural choice for my first Asian vacation, although I feel like a traitor since I’m 1/4 Korean. But hey, a large majority of tourists and Asian residents here in Hawaii are Japanese, so there are a plethora of affordable nonstop flights. Plus, I figured Japan is Westernized enough that it’s a good cherry popper for visiting Asia, rather than other places I also want to go such as China, Thailand and India, which would induce much higher culture shock without warming up first.
            Even still, Japan was a lot to get used to and take in. It’s overwhelming and outrageous for us Americans in so many ways, but it was thrilling and incredible at the same time. The American influence in Japan is heavy and can be felt everywhere you go. The one thing that I definitely did not expect to be so and and definitely struggled with the most was the language barrier, which made things difficult at times. Since so much is written in English alongside Japanese, you assume people know English, but they’re shy about speaking it. As Americans, we tend to go out there and expect everything is catered to us and made easy. Japan was Americanized just enough for the naïve to survive, but foreign enough to really push you out of your comfort zone and make things interesting.

            My first impression of Japan was that everything I’d heard about it being immaculately clean was absolutely true. Even train stations and public restrooms were in much better condition than anywhere else I’ve been by far. I was really impressed. Another thing that proved itself to be true was that it was incredibly safe. I never once felt like I was in any danger. During my trip, I learned that this cleanliness and safety is due to the Japanese spending a considerable amount of time teaching children about CHARACTER in school. They learn the importance of integrity even before math and reading. So when they find a wad of cash or a wallet, they turn it in every time. And, as I witnessed, if they drop something on the ground, they are scolded to pick it up immediately. They do NOT litter, as it’s considered disrespectful (as it should be). This is a huge pet peeve of mine in the States and other countries where litter, spit, gum, and even urine line every street, so it was another thing that I loved seeing. They are definitely so ahead of Americans in ways like these.

            Tokyo is a city that you can truly explore on your own if you’re willing to do a bit of research and figure out the huge subway system that is extremely efficient and punctual. We took the trains everywhere and it involved a lot of walking, stairs, and crowds; but it was the best way to really see Japanese people firsthand and get the real Tokyo experience. However, it's best to avoid rush hour, as it gets unbelievably crowded, as you may have seen on an infamous Youtube/Facebook video where people are stuffed in a subway car like sardines. Once you get the hang of the different lines and stops [and learn to utilize great subway routing apps like Hyperdia], you'll be a pro. Definitely one of the best public transportation system I’ve used. Also if you ever travel here, keep in mind that the main Narita airport is about 2 hours away by car or train. The best option is the Narita Express train, which will cost a little more at 4000 Yen or $32 roundtrip, but it gets you to central Tokyo in under an hour.
On our first full day, we headed to the Disney area right outside of Tokyo since we wanted to visit Disney Sea, which has different themes revolving around different seas or bodies of water. It’s the only one in the world, so we went on a weekday to avoid weekend madness. It was my first time at a Disney park, so I got myself some Minnie ears and had fun. The next day, we ventured about an hour away via the subway to Kamakura, where I got to see a huge Buddha and then a gorgeous temple honoring my favorite deity, Guanyin, at the Hase Dera temple. This was one of the most beautiful and sacred places I got to see on this trip. After this, we visited the insanely busy Shibuya Crossing. When you see Tokyo on TV and in movies and there’s mobs of people crossing streets, this is what they’re showing you. It’s even more hectic in person. Finally, we headed to the Roppongi area, where I got to witness a gorgeous sunset on the rooftop of the 55 story Mori building. I could see the entire city including a great view of the Tokyo Tower, and in the reddish orange horizon, I could even see Mount Fuji! It was breathtaking and I could not believe my eyes. Simply unforgettable. I cannot recommend this “Tokyo City View” attraction enough.






Another highlight for me was visiting Senso-Ji, the oldest temple in Tokyo built it 645. It also consisted of a chaotic marketplace, pagodas, and beautiful gardens all before the magnificent shrine. There was an overwhelming amount of tourists, but that's all a part of the experience. This is an absolute must in Japan. Also, we visited the anime district Akihabara, known as “electric town” to witness the notorious flashing lights, big screens, and people dressed up as cartoon characters everywhere. I was in search of certain anime items for my nephews, which I never ended up finding, but oh well, I tried. What an experience. Anime is a huge deal here, so it's yet another incredibly busy area. Not too far from here, we headed to see the Emperor of Tokyo’s home, Imperial Palace. It’s tucked away so you can’t see much of it, but there’s a very iconic bridge leading to it where hundreds of people are trying to get a picture at any given time. This area is downtown Tokyo, and the fall foliage was just starting to come in so I really enjoyed seeing the colors. Also made a quick stop in the Ginza district just to check out this well-known upscale and high-end shopping area, which reminded me of Fifth Avenue. Speaking of which, much of Tokyo will remind you of an Asian version of New York City... well besides the occasional old world remnants, like a random pagoda amongst skyscrapers. Many areas (especially Shibuya and Shinjuku) reminded me of Times Square, though many times even more chaotic somehow.




One thing I was determined to do on this trip was to make it down to the Harajuku station. I have been obsessed with this area  and Japanese street fashion since Gwen Stefani introduced it to the American mainstream over a decade ago. It's basically a shopping mecca where young adults and teens frequent, often dressing in the outlandish outfits that Tokyo is famous around the world for. I was SO thrilled that I got to see some girls dressed in "Lolita" and "kawaii" styles walking around the main strip, which is lined with girly and pastel colored boutiques. I am swooning just at the memory of it.






Another bustling area of bright lights and action was Shinjuku. Here you’ll find more shopping, theme restaurants, and also seedy establishments, such as tiny bars where “salary men” go after work to “chat” with pretty women. Our whole reason for being here was to see the craziest production I’ll ever witness in my lifetime at the famous “Robot Restaurant”. Here, scantily clad Japanese girls will giggle, sing, dance, and fight clowns, robots, monsters, and even a giant shark, all among laser lights, glowsticks, fog, and explosions. It’s basically a live anime, or for some, a real-life nightmare. Total and complete ridiculousness, and a guaranteed good time. I cannot imagine visiting Tokyo and NOT seeing this!


On our last day, I had several hours before our 7PM flight, so I took the train to an area called Komagome to visit a gorgeous park, Rikugien, which is actually a garden of poetry. Fall colors made this a gorgeous hike, and you can even climb an easy trail to a great view of the park from the top of a hill. I know landscape gardens are such a big deal in Japanese culture, so I did not want to leave Tokyo without visiting one. Next, I headed back to the Harajuku station, since this was my favorite area by far, to shop and check out the sights again. I also visited the last attraction I was determined to see, the Meiji Jingu shrine. This consisted of a long walk in the forest to a very lovely and historic shrine.




Overall, I had a great and eye opening trip as expected. Tokyo is the most populous city in the world with almost 38 million people, all of whom seem to be in a big hurry. While those who work in the service industry are extremely professional, gracious, and polite, in general most of the population would come off as rude to many Americans. They hardly ever smile or show any emotion, they don’t cover their mouths when they sneeze or cough (which explains why so many wear masks), and they’ll walk right into you without an apology. But at the same time, this is a culture that deeply values respect, humility, and modesty. No one will point or stare at you, even though you stand out because you’re completely different. From what I could see, they seem to welcome foreigners, especially Americans. I thoroughly enjoyed the extremeness of it all. Safe to say, you can certainly add Tokyo to the growing list of cities I fell in love with.





XOXO ❤️

Friday, November 13, 2015

#peaceforparis



Paris is a magical city that has touched the hearts of many and will always be a treasure for all of the world. Personally, it has made the most profound impact on me, much more than any other place I've ever been. I fell so in love with everything that I literally could not stop myself from getting emotional the entire time I was there, and when I left I felt a deep longing and melancholy that really surprised me (and which still kind of lingers today). I have never been so moved and felt such a connection to a place. Not only because I have French heritage and family who still live there, but I think anyone can see why it's called the "city of love" and is such a favorite for many. It will forever have such a special place in my heart. 

To think of such a place being terrorized by evildoers is so devastating. My deepest prayers and my entire sympathy is with the victims of the attacks in Paris today, their loved ones coping with loss and devastation, and the entire city as it deals with the aftermath. Let us all send genuine vibrations of love, peace and healing their way. And most of all, let us all pray for humanity.

Thursday, November 12, 2015

The Power of Positive Thinking

                A few weeks ago, I attended a motivational briefing at work titled “The Power of Positive Thinking” by Mark Jarema that was SO powerful, it left me extremely inspired and uplifted. So I definitely wanted to share some of my notes, as I feel this is too good not to share and can really help others. Mostly, it’s stuff we already know, and I have been studying it and living it for years, so I cannot stress this enough!! The main themes are concepts I try to live by: Positivity, attitude, purpose, passion, clarity, forgiveness, reciprocity, gratitude, self-knowledge. ENJOY!
-          What we think, we become! Thoughts create perception, perception turns into reality. So what you think literally magnifies itself. When you think to yourself “it’s going to be a long day” or “what could go wrong next” you’re asking for those things. Train yourself to think and live with POSITIVITY.
-          Your ATTITUDE is everything – it’s either in the way or leading the way. “Some days and Mondays are a kick in the pants, but you are the captain of your own ship”.
-          Four things you will inevitably encounter every day: 1) Changes 2) Challenges 3) The unexpected 4) Negative people.
-          Dr. Normal Vincent Peale affirms that 95% of the people in the world are conformers who conform to negativity.
-          Adults only smile an average of 20 times per day, sometimes as little as 5 times a day!
-          If you make $34k a year, you make more than ¾ of the world.
-          If we live in such a great country, why are so many people depressed and broke?
-          We’re trained that to find happiness, we must go to school, get a job, get promoted, buy a house, buy a car, etc. but once we get to the next level, what’s next? We’re never satisfied because we value material things and status.
-          You have to be fulfilled on the inside! This can only be accomplished when you find your PURPOSE.
-          If you’re actively working towards goals that align with your purpose, you WILL be successful.
-          If your purpose is coming to work every day, that is NOT a purpose. That comes from greed and fear! Do not let money control and consume you! Your purpose in life is much deeper than this, and it should determine what kind of work you do.
-          To go from ordinary to extraordinary, you need PASSION.
-          Average people remain average people because of lack of CLARITY.
-          Ask yourself – When did you last risk failure? When did you last step outside of your comfort zone?
-          Don’t be afraid of change! It can be uncomfortable, but change needs to happen for good things to come. 
-          You have only failed if you’ve given up.
-          Be a Pollyanna – defined as “an excessively cheerful and optimistic person”.
-          There is so much power in FORGIVENESS – holding grudges will hold you back. You must forgive two people: 1) Those that hurt you the most (if not, you will only attract more of them) and 2) most importantly, yourself! 
-          People with negative or miserable attitudes usually do not realize it. Do an inventory and get rid of the bad apples in your life! You may not even realize how toxic people can be and how much drama they create. “Not everyone you know can come with you on your journey”. There may be family, friends and coworkers that you must deal with, but compartmentalize your dealings with them. 
-          If you want to lift yourself up, lift someone else up! RECIPROCITY comes back in time! Lift at least two people up per day, and live in service to helping others!
-          Maintain an attitude of GRATTITUDE – The more thankful we are, the more we receive. Journal things you’re thankful for each day.
-          SELF-KNOWLEDGE is more important that any formal education. We should work even harder at ourselves than at our work, because when WE become great, we also become awesome at our jobs! 
-          Everyone has something to offer, no one is better than anyone else. LOVE YOURSELF!

XOXO ❤️